How to balance career and motherhood
Truth be told, it’s not easy being a mum trying to juggle a full-time job with a family. It gets harder with our judgmental society that constantly critiques working mothers. But just because it’s not easy, it doesn’t mean that you can’t create that balance. We talked to some working mothers who shared their coping tips.
Get the best help
“If you are constantly worried about what’s happening at home there is no way you are going to deliver at the work place. Life is much easier for me because I trust the nanny who looks after my son’’, says Atan Mubiru a mother of one who works as a marketer. Creating balance starts with getting the right care that will make you and your child feel comfortable. It could be a nanny, a close relative or a day care center. The moment you feel that your child is in safe hands, you will be able to concentrate. Take time to study the pros and cons of the different types of care through internet research and personal experiences from friends and relatives.
Involve your partners
So, here is the thing. Superwoman only exists in movies. Raising kids with no support isn’t easy. The easiest way to reduce the stress is to pass on responsibilities to your partner.
“I come from a background where girls are expected to do everything so it was initially difficult for me to ask my husband for help but when I started life became easier,’’ says Jane Musiime a mother of three.
‘’ When I know I am going to work late, my husband makes sure the boys have their dinner and bath at the right time’’, she adds. So, here is the thing. Superwoman only exists in movies. Raising kids with no support isn’t easy: the most direct way to ease the burdens off your shoulders is to pass them to your partner.
Leave work at work
If you must get paid, office work obviously needs to get done. But nevertheless, you must make sure it’s done during the hours allocated to it. Carrying work home will interfere with your mum time. The best remedy is to develop routines and habits that allow you to be as efficient as possible while you’re still in the office so that none of the work carries into your home. For Dorothy Kugonza a Banker, that means carrying packed lunch and using the lunch break to work instead of going out of lunch. The mother of four makes it a point to leave her work laptop at the office. She also disabled office mail from her phone.
Make time to take care of yourself
With so many errands and office responsibilities, it’s easy to put your family and your career ahead of your own personal needs. But that shouldn’t be the case.
“Over the years, I have learnt that I can’t give my best if I’m not at my best. So, I use Saturday afternoon for me time. I usually go to the spur or have lunch with friends’’, says Irene Kaiso a Sale’s executive. So ladies, it doesn’t matter how busy you are, it’s absolutely necessary to clear at least a small amount of time in your schedule to focus on yourself
There is no easier way out of this one. To survive as a working mum, you must get organised. For example you can use the weekends to lessen the load during the week. Picking out your outfits for the week or cooking the lunches for the week will definitely make life easier.
Cut yourself some slack
When all is said and done, it’s important to cut yourself some slack. Being a mum doesn’t mean you are not human. You don’t have to do everything. Opting to buy food from a restaurant on a busy day doesn’t make you a bad mother. Neither does opting for the school shuttle instead of driving your child to school every day. Instead of comparing yourself to other mums, find the balance that works for you.